soc.women

Men are from Earth, Women are from Earth

I once read one of those funny emails that get sent around the office
from time to time. Part of the text read: Men are from Earth, Women
are from Earth; deal with it! Very funny; but also very true.

Thinking about this statement has lead me to wonder certain things.
Do we really accept that men and women are different? Do we secretly
wish men and woman were the same in some ways? Are we constantly,
either consciously or sub-consciously, trying to change each other?
Interesting questions and the short answer is: acceptance of each
other is growing, we do sometimes wish men and women were the same and
yes, we do try to change each other.

Acceptance of gender differences is exactly what we need to aim for,
and there are so many ways to work at doing this. For the purpose of
this article, let us assume that I am referring to men and women
within a monogamous, heterosexual, healthy relationship. I feel that
there are many of us who would like this acceptance of each other,
sooner, rather than later.

It's funny that many of us wish women and men were sometimes the
same. Life would get pretty boring is this were so. It's also funny
that we try and change each other. We cannot change anyone, yet sadly
some of us have not learnt that lesson. No matter how much we might
wish for men and women to be the same in some way, this is really not
what we want. As for changing each other, this is impossible. People
want to be accepted for who they are. It might be possible to modify
someone's behaviour by influencing that behaviour with positive
actions of our own, however we cannot count on this method as a given.

Acceptance of each other's differences is the key here and so is
understanding of those differences. If we put as much effort into
understanding men and women's differences' as we do trying to change
each other, there would be a lot more happiness between men and women.

Unfortunately on a negative note, there is a lot of ignorance out
there. Some people think they have all the answers; they don't. Some
people say that they are confused, some are, and some aren't.
Confusion can be for some a convenient excuse. Some people throw their
hands up in the air and give up. What good is that? These are not
positive steps forward towards forging understanding and acceptance.

Any man/woman relationship is hard work, however I do not believe a
relationship should be too hard. If you relationship is of the too
hard variety, then get out! What I mean by too hard is: If you are in
a relationship where there is some kind of physical, mental or
substance abuse, then leave. If you are in a relationship where there
is infidelity, leave. No-one is these situations can be expected to
foster acceptance, understanding and trust when they are involved in
relationships that contain that kind of poison. However, if the above
does not apply to you, then I believe a happy, relationship, based on
understanding, patience, trust and loving acceptance can exist.

For more information on creating a happy relationship with your man or
woman please visit the following links:

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Jel (aka Janelle Coulton) is a writer of articles, essays and short
stories. She also endorses and promotes other peoples written work, in
the form of articles, E-Books and hard copy literature. Jel is an
animal lover, avid reader, and loves to delve into controversial
issues. She is passionate about writing and creating work that will
encourage the reader to look inside themselves. She also loves to make
people laugh. Jel lives in Canberra with her partner and two pets (a
cat and a dog), she is currently working on a couple of E-Books at
present, which will soon be for sale on her website.

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